2017年7月12日星期三

Oh Life! 人生啊!

Flashback more than 2500 years ago, it was Gautama Buddha who realized the sufferings of life and the impermanence of all-that-is, which set him on the path in search for the Truth (Tao) and the solution of ending sufferings. During his journey, he discovered that meditation and asceticism alone were not the answer.

If one seeks to end suffering or misery by attempting to change the environment (or external factors) to sooth his pain; his efforts would be futile! It can be said that man can change the environment to suit his needs, much like turning on the air-conditioning when the weather is hot. It is not applicable to a person who is suffering mentality. Any attempt of ridding the person(s), thing or environment that caused his misery in the first place, would be useless or would at most alleviate the pain momentarily. The pain will resurface when similar person(s), situation or environment arises again and thus the pain 'returns'.

As such, the only way to truly eradicate suffering should be that of a mental level. Change your mind, change your reality! Simple, right? Recently I came to realize that it is easier said than done. After weeks of coughing and visits to the doctor, I finally found out that I had contracted a lung infection which although wasn't life-threatening but nonetheless gave me a chance to rethink how much "wisdom" or truly "enlightened" I thought I was. Even after medication, the nights were "nightmare-ish" as sudden coughing or a swallow of saliva could send me to a frantic cough that seemed very asthmatic while I tried to catch my breath of life. I kept a bottle of warm water to drink handy when such event happened, but it was not always effective. The feeling was as if I had residues of tea-leaves stuck in my dry throat that caused it, but I could not cough out any phlegm much less tea-leaves...haha...fortunately I recovered somewhat.

This episode had shown me that we humans are 'fragile' beings and we can trash our ego into the bin. So what if we are a CEO of a big company or the president, in the face of illness or death, we are but weak twigs. When you are ill, nothing seems to be important anymore. Your aspirations, desires, hatred, jealousy, money, power, status etc can step aside. My self-confidence was quite shaken.

We are trapped in our own illusion and desire. Now is the time to rethink our life and life purpose. You should ask yourself this question, "Is my life just the acronym for "ESSP" (Eat-Sleep-Shit-Procreate)?" I would hope that your answer is "NO", otherwise we would be no better than mere animals who can do ESSP much better than us.

早在两千五百多年前,佛陀明白了生老病死为四大苦海,万事万物多变且无常,而立志寻访明师了脱生死之法。在旅途中,他发现参禅打坐不是究竟,而放弃苦行。

一般上,人们通常会从改变外在的“人、事、物或环境”来改善或减轻痛苦。但这只是治标不治本的做法。当同样的“人、事、物或环境”又再出现时,我们的苦又神奇的出现了!所以说“心境的改变,环境才会随之而改。所谓“一真一切真,一善一切善”, 心念一改,一切都平静了。心的不舒服(病)是由我们自己结下的,心病还需心药医。

此话说得简单,做起来不易啊!还记得上回自己得了肺感染,连续咳了好几个星期,连看三次医生方知病因。连夜的咳嗽,整夜难眠。有时连吞口水也会触发不停的咳嗽,犹如喉咙里有茶渣,甚至有时会咳得像要窒息一般。偶尔喝喝温水,方可缓解。辛亏数日后好转,感恩上天!

这个经历让我再深思,人生真的太脆弱了!无论您的身份、地位、贫或富等等;在病魔和死亡面前,人人平等。以往的憧憬,怨恨,恩爱情仇等;在您病着时,都得闪一边去,您也没精神或心情理会这些“以前如数家珍的仇恨,嫉妒,埋怨”了,一心只想病快点好起来。这时我们应当问问自己“我的人生是否唯有“吃、睡和繁衍下一代”而已?" 希望您的答案是“不是”,要不我们不能自称“万物之灵”了。因为 “吃、睡和繁衍下一代"是动物也能做的,甚至做得比我们更好呢。

2016年3月14日星期一

The Irony of Life 人生的矛盾

Hair?...nothing special. But to many it means different things. "Youth", "Fashion", "Being Cool" etc. You may style any way you want... that is, provided you still got some..ha..ha...


But joke aside. Don't you find it an irony? When you were young, you want to look more mature...be it "lady-like" or "manly". You may be tempted to dye your hair to the trend of the times, or perhaps trim to an 'outrageous-your mum will scream in horror' kind of style? But it really puzzles me that why would any one want to dye their hair white!

What's more ironic is when you get old (older), you would dye it to a more youthful color like black (for Asians) to cover those o-so-ugly whites/greys. But this is understandable. I mean, who wants to look old? (not me?)

This thought reminds me of the "yin-yang" symbol.

It looked like 2 fishes if you may, 'chasing' each other's tail, with each having a little quality of each other (the white dot and the black dot).. It seems too that it is a cycle of birth and death cycle, constantly renewing itself. Much like a parent ages while her child matures from a baby to adulthood.. and the cycle renews again; with the child getting married and having child(ren) of her own.

In life, we do not noticed the passing of time as we are engrossed in our fanatic routine, more "zombie-like" as we are always in automatic mode. We pinned our eyes on our handphone more than on people and things around us; in addition we are conditioned to think of what it means to be "happy". We were conditioned to this frame of mind through many ages (rebirths) of upbringing and the 'norm' that the society sets itself (car, big house, beautiful wife/capable husband, money, power, status...). We do not take time to reflect/meditate/think or rethink about our life (Or are we afraid to take charge of our life and live life as we really want it to be?)

We are chasing the elusive thing called 'happiness' outside of us. But once we got what we want, the 'happiness' is gone again like a fluttering butterfly and once again we are chasing again the next 'new' desire.

"Buddha" when loosely translated means "The Great Enlightened One". He is able to 'see' and understand what is permanent or impermanent, what is eternal and what is transient. The only difference between a Buddha and a layman is that one has awakened to the Truth; while the other is still "dreaming in a dream"... what do you think?

头发,没什么特别啊?可是我们往往在少年时期,都希望看起来成熟一点;把头发染成七彩或修剪成让人“惊艳”的发型。但是当我们一天天老化时,就只想把灰白的头发染黑,看起来年轻一点。这也没什么,谁会想看起来老老的?

黑与白,让我想起“阴阳”。看起来好像是两条黑、白小鱼互相追逐。黑中有白,白中有黑。有如父生子,子生子。。代代相传。子长,父老。有长有消,有生有灭。。这就是人生。

人最要追求的,莫过“幸福、快乐”。这个让每个人穷一生追求的“快乐”,似乎是一只想咬住自己尾巴的狗一样,到头来一场空。如梦似蝶!为何人类不能如愿以偿呢?只因“人心不足”,追求外在的快乐是短暂的。得到之后,又有新目标,永无止息!

佛陀为“大觉者”,因他历经千万已对人间世态冷暖,人情百态,如人饮水了如指掌。惟众生视假为真,颠倒错乱,如行尸走肉,麻醉与五花八门,全无意愿自拔。佛与众生差别,只谓“一悟、一迷”之间。待三寸气断,尤不知“谁是我,我是谁”,空来人间走一回。人生最可悲之事,莫过“空渡光阴”,不知回头和以短暂生命,成己成人。。叹!数多人仍做着他的梦中梦!劝!人人能速觅明路,调心正己。“快乐人生”由内而外,转识为智,处处便是净土,人人都是菩萨;您说呢?

Side thought: We should start looking at our life and make a change. Doing the same thing everyday, will only yield the SAME results. A change in yourself will bring about a new perspective towards life, people, environment and events.

2015年6月22日星期一

Sand or Stone? 沙或是石头?

pic of writing on sand and stone
Two friends were walking through a desert and at some point of the journey they had an argument. One friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand "Today my best friend slapped me in the face". They kept walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped, got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but her friend saved her. After the friend recovered from the near drowning, she wrote on a stone "Today my best friend saved my life." The friend who had slapped and saved her best friend asked her, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."

两位朋友在沙漠同行。旅途中,朋友之间起了争执,其中一个朋友生气的打了另一个朋友一记耳光。受伤的朋友默不作声地,在沙上写下“今天我的好朋友打了我一个耳光”。朋友两继续步行,进而发现了一个绿洲。她们便在绿洲中洗澡和补充水分。原先被打的朋友不慎,陷入泥泞中,眼看就要溺毙。她的好友见状,迅速把她救起。待死里逃生的朋友苏醒后,她便在石头上写上“今天我的好朋友救了我!”。此时伸出援手的朋友,好奇地问她为什么在先前在沙地上写,而今却在石头上写上感言?朋友回应说:“我们应该把怨恨写在沙上,好让宽恕之风把它吹散并且忘怀。而且应该把别人对我们的恩典刻在石头上,永记于心,任风怎么吹也吹不散。”

朋友您今天是充满感恩,或是紧抱仇恨不放呢?选择在于您。

Side thought: Learn to write your hurts in the sand, and to carve your benefits in stone. What is your choice today? Forgiveness or Gratitude? The choice is yours! Face the sun and see the light or turn your back to see only your shadow?

2014年6月20日星期五

I found my...SHOE! 久违了..小红鞋


Look at what I had found! My long-lost shoe... alas, it had to work to make a living too :')
我终于找到你啦! 那遗失很久的小红鞋! 怎么你会在这儿干活?

2014年4月28日星期一

Recipe: Iddy 怎么制作(印度食品)?

Iddly .... mmm...yummy!

Ingredients needed:
1)      200g Iddly flour
2)      320ml Water
3)      Oil for spreading the Iddly mould

 
Method
 
  1. Buy a packet of Iddly mix.
  2. Mix the Iddly flour gently with the water.
  3. Leave it for 2-3 mins. Spread the mould with oil.
  4. Pour the batter in the steaming cups.
  5. Cover the steamer and steam for 7-10mins.
  6. Test the Iddly with a stick. If the batter doesn’t stick to the stick it is cooked.
Note: Iddly usually serve with sambar or cattni. It may also serve with brown sugar for children.
 
 
(Another delicious recipe courtesy of Ms Helen Prudy)

Recipe: Vadai "沃道伊"怎么制作(印度食品)?

Vadai ready for consumption!
 
We will be making 'Vadai" (around 23 pieces) from the following ingredients:
1)      250g pigeon pea (Toor Dhal) 
 
2)      ½ teaspoon of cumin seeds 
3)      2 green chilies
4)      2 red chilies
5)      1 small ginger(around 10g)
6)      1 comb of curry leaves
 7)      3-5 teaspoon of corn flour
8)      1 teaspoon of salt 
 
Note: You may add in others ingredients according to individual preference. Ingredients such as coriander leaf and fennel seeds are the common ingredients that add on to the vadai too.
 
Method
1.      Soak the dhal for 2 hours.
2.      Blend 2/3 of dhal.
3.      Mix the dhal with the remaining 1/3 dhal. Then add the curry leaves, cumin seed, cut chilies and salt.
4.      Add in some corn flour.
5.      Make it into dough and fried in the pan.
6.      Fried till golden brown and ready to be served.
Note: A successful vadai should be crispy outside and soft inside.
 
Happy Cooking and Enjoy! :)
 
(Recipe is by-courtesy of Ms Helen Prudy)

2013年12月26日星期四

What do you see? 你看到了什么?

What do you see? A cleaning gauze or something else? Hi friends and fellow Dao-kin, it's been a while since I last posted. Sorry about this, I was pretty caught up with life. While making a trip to my kitchen sink to wash a cup, I chanced upon this curious worn-out cleaning gauze I left last night. I was quick to snap this up with my trusty phone. So.... what do you see? A gauze or a mouse? Side thought: In our transient life, we may have missed out the simplest of beauty. This reminds me of the saying "have eyes that do not see, have ears that do not listen". Very often, we tend to see and hear according to our own pre-conceived notion of what happens around us. We may lack the sensitivity to see and hear from a different angle. This is very true if we consider a scenario of sending a 'good-intentioned' email and getting a ill reaction from the receipient. Thus we should not jump to conclusion as to what the other person's real intentions are. We should probe further before arriving to a conclusion. See deeper, not just skin-deep... look beyond the 'less-than-perfect' surface and discover the inner beauty.